16 ways to deal with Eve teasers/stalkers & Despo guys

It's a shameful thing for us that women are not safe in our country. First, they don't get equal right & freedom, now they are not safe also. The incidences of eve teasing & acid attacks are increasing every day.To make this country safe, we need to change the mentality/attitude of men. I feel only education/ awareness can bring that change.Till then

Here are the few things which every woman must do for her safety

a) Always carry pepper spray / knife

b) Share about unusual incidence/ stalking with your family members or close friends. If you are very shy type, you can note all those things down in your personal diary. As these things will help you in the future for reference /complain.

c) Avoid hanging out alone or in isolated places

d) Always keep emergency dial number in your phone.

e) Keep updating your friend/family members about your locations/movements

Here are the 15 options to deal with eve-teasers/stalkers/despo guys. Depending on the situations & your skill, you can use. 

Remember never to get  scared or afraid of anything , fight for your right & freedom.

1) Ignorance is a bliss- ONLY IF YOU CAN.. 

2) Fight back

 If you can show your boldness & strength, just hit back on the right spot.

3) Record all the evidences

You can collect all the evidences like video or audio record , pictures , SMS, chats.

4) Complain to police

With all the evidences, you can complain to the Police , under section 509, 354 , 354 D (stalking)

5) Call him Bhaiya/Anna/brother

6) Always try to take help from your friends /family for moral support & ideas 

7) Let your parents / brothers sort it out for you

8) Search about your stalker/ Despo guy and inform his family/teachers

9) Call women helpline numbers for the rescue

10) Take the help of Social media like newspaper/facebook/whatsapp etc.

11) Use pepper spray /knife

12) Talk to him and make him understand , USE ONLY IF APPLICABLE and never go alone to talk , go with your friends

13) Warn & scare him 

Like - tell him about all the evidences you have to complain.

Or something weird,like telling him that you are ready to marry him now and let's go  

14) Scream for help in public places /whenever in danger - best SOS

15) tell him to back off, because I am committed/ married 

16) say you have some serious infectious disease like HIV, STDs, or make up a new one ;)

- Ankit Suniyal ( date - 22 oct 2015 )

Recommended Books for MBBS students (1st yr till final year )

1) FIRST YEAR MBBS

A) Anatomy

1.  BD Chaurasia (handbook and textbook, must)
2. Student's  edition of gray's anatomy 
3. Vishram Singh (Neuroanatomy)
4. Richard snell (standard book for Neuroanatomy)
5. Inderbir Singh (it makes embryology & histology quite easy to understand)
6. Kazi ( Q & A book,  helpful for exams)
7. Langman (standard book/reference for embryology, diagrams are good, but its language is quite complicated )
8.  Di Fiore  (standard book/reference book for histology )
9.  Netter's atlas 
10. Grant's atlas (this atlas is quite better as few extra points are given below the diagrams)

B) Physiology 

- Guyton (must,prefers Guyton over Ganong)
- A K Jain

C) Biochemistry 

- Vasudevan (quite complicated with so many interlinks, but its good to learn from it )
- Chatterjee
-Harper (standard book, must try)



2) SECOND YEAR MBBS

A) Pathology 

- Robins (standard book, must have)
- Harsh Mohan ( easy to read & understand)
- Geetika Khana  ( Q & A book ,  helpful during exams)

B) Microbiology 

- Ananthnarayan (textbook)
- Jawetz ( standard book for better guidance and concepts ) 

- Baveja (simple and easy to understand the basics)
- Apurba Shastri (precise and to the point )
- Parija ( practical manual book and Parasitology book, quite lengthy) 
 - Nagoba and Asha pichare ( Q & A book ,  helpful during exams)

C) Pharmacology

- KD Tripati (must have )
-  Katzung (standard book )
- Shanbaug (helpful to prepare answers and understand) 
- Goodman Gilman  (PG level book)

D) Forensic medicine 

- Reddy (quite boring as it is black & white BUT standard book)
- Pillay (precise and have lots of pictures) 
-T Rama Rao (Q & A book,  helpful during exams)



3) THIRD YEAR MBBS

A) PSM 

- Park (standard book, must)
- vivek jain ( Q & A book )
- Sreejith, Paras publication ( highly updated, to the point, must try)

B) Opthalmology 

- Khurana (precise and pointwise , must )
- Parson (standard book, must have, best book to develop concepts and basics )
- Tulli (clinical book for opthal, optional)
-Kanski (PG level)

C) ENT

- Dhingra (must have)
- Balkrishna ( clinical book for ENT) 
- Logan (PG level)


4) FOURTH YEAR MBBS

A) Medicine

- Hutchison or Macleod clinical book ( must read at least once )
- Davidson (must have)
- Kundu (for bedside clinical case, Must have for clinics)
- Alagappan (practical manual for Practical basics ) 
- G. Matthew (Q & A book,  helpful during exams)
- Harrison (can use for reference or try to read, must have it's soft copy atleast )

B) Surgery 

- Bailey and Love (standard book, optional, can have its ebook)
- Manipal ( Textbook, easy, simple to read & Understand, adequate )
- Rajmahendran's book of Short cases and Long cases (must have for surgery practicals )
or
- S.Das ( standard practical book)
- Sabiston or Schwartz ( PG level books)

C) Paediatrics 

- OP Ghai (text book, must have)
- Scott ( Paeds Clinical book, important for UG & PGs )
- IAP ( lengthy & costly, Must have it's soft copy in your laptop/tablet )
- Nelson ( PG level book)

D) Obstetrics and gynecology 

- Dutta's Textbook of Obstetrics (standard )
- Sheila balakrishnan - Obstetrics ( easy to understand and read , updated , must have )
- lakshmi seshadri essentials of Gynecology (easy , updated , must have )
- Shaw's Textbook of Gynecology (optional)

Orthopaedics - Maheshwari (textbook, easy to understand, basics)
                      - Apley (standard textbook, must have its ebook)
                      - kaushik banerjee / S.das of surgery ( for clinical)

For side subjects/Topics-
  
Psychiatry- Neeraj Ahuja
Dermat - Neena khanna or
              - Dr. Thappa 
Neurology examination  - Fuller (standard)
exam, optional )

ECG made easy - John R Hampton (optional)

Indian law against men

Here are the few laws in India, which are totally biased toward females and men are as usual neglected.


1) Adultery ( S.497 IPC)

According to this, voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man  and someone other than his wife 
Or
Between a married  woman and someone other than her husband.

In this only man will be punished, not the woman under the law. Means a woman can't be charged of adultery.

2) ( Sec 375,CrPC 53A )  In India, a man cannot accuse a woman of rape. 
Even if we know that rarely, but that too happens.

 


3) There is  no age limit for a man to charged with rape , from a new born kid  to the 100yr old dying man .

4) If a girl less than 18 ,  voluntary, with her consent has a sex with a guy, then that  guy will be charged of rape ,even if the guy is of same age or younger than the girl.

5) (Sec 509 IPC )- word ,gesture or act intended to insult the modesty of a woman. Means a guy  cannot abuse a woman, but a woman can , as there is no law to protect men.

6) (Sec 354 ) - molestation or criminal force to a woman with intent to outrage her modesty. 
Only men are punishable.

7) IPC 354 D- stalking

Only men are punishable.

8) IPC 354 C - voyeurism 

Only men are punishable.

9) Section 37 of the special marriage act of 1954-  only a  woman can claim permanent alimony & maintenance.

10) Sec 304B - if a woman dies within the 7years of marriage due to burn or injury. Then it would be faulted on the husband (dowry )

11) Hindu succession act of  1956-
After the death of a bachelor man/ or a man with no wife or children,
Only his mother can inherit his property not his father. 

4 Stages in a relationship. Find out which one is yours?

1) Attraction- 

When you are new in the relationship. Everything looks  awesome. Everything is new, you wanna explore things, life seems good and adventurous . Its your honeymoon phase. you are high in your hormonally. You are impressed / attracted towards your lover.
you are quite insecure about your lover at this time. You wanna spend each and every moment with him/her, So he/she does not get time to think about someone else. You want his/her full attention and you get it too ;)

2) Failure of expectations / Disappointment-

This is the phase where  you discover so many things about each other which ,you don't like . In this, lots of your expectantions from your lover are not met, as usual, expectation kills.
As your honeymoon phase is over and you start thinking about the pros and cons of your relationship, about your future. You will start to think that the person you met, is really the person ,you want to spend your entire life with him? or accidently you are dating a wrong person ? 
Then you start finding faults & flaws in each other,  Hell lots of fights occur in this phase and 95%  of it leads to breakup. 

3) Acceptance & compromise- 

 In this phase, you start to accept the reality. You start to accept the person as he/she is, with all his/her flaws. You stop changing him/her to meet your expectations and you realise that no one is perfect. you stop judging him/her, ignore his/her mistakes and will try to have a better understanding with each other. You will compromise or make an agreement to settle things and can make things to fall in the right place. If you pass this stage, it means your relationship is strong and it may go further.

4) Trust / understanding

After the third phase, you start trusting and understanding your lover more. You have a bonding, in which now he/she can even read your mind . In this, you lose your selfish nature and you start giving- personal space, time and trust. 
You understand that you don't need to be possessive or to doubt her. 

You trust him/her that even if you let him/her go away from you , she/he will surely return back to you. You are willing  to wait for your lover,  your entire life.

That's the final stage of relationship which is called TRUE LOVE.

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21 myths about masculinity

myths about masculinity

With the time everything changes, so the definitions, norms & attitude in the society also changes with time.
Here are the few myths about masculinity due to which people are misguided and they loose from their own identity/originality in following them.

1) men never cry

2) men never feel pain

3) men never hold babies

4) men never enter kitchen 

5) men never loose any game/race, specially to ladies

6) a real man is a stud

7) real man need to be muscular & macho always

8) a real never cry for a girl/love

9) a man's man is an expert on sex




10) men only always have to bring home the bacon 

11) real man drinks/smoke

12) a man cant be home-maker

13) a real man is abusive and aggressive 

14) men never ask for money from girl and always pays the bill

15) singing/dancing is never made for men

 






16) men never wear a pink 

17) a real man have moustaches/beard

18) a real man never ride a scooty,only bikes

19) a real man never sit behind a girl in a ride

20) men don't change the diapers of their babies

   


21) a real is a man ,who keeps his lady under control 

sorry to say this, but i think till now no such human being is born to control his lady. so please don't try this at your home. Its dangerous :P

the only thing which is possible is EQUALITY :)