Factors making you a victim of fake love (infatuation)

In today’s world , everyone is getting committed ,very fast.Even without giving it a second thought, about whether their love is true or just an attraction.It leads to increased no. of heartbreaks among people (devdas)…  Human is a social animal. And in hunger of love , he keeps searching for love irrespective of its consequences And keeps fooling his mind & heart. Rest assured he falls for the wrong person.

here is a list of a few factors which manipulates your mind in making decision about love, which is prepared by me…..after reading/analyzing all the factors carefully, tell me/ask yourself which factor is yours??

Factors making ones a victim of fake love(infatuation)

1) loneliness- whenever you don’t have someone in your life to share your feelings/things, you start to feel lonelier and tend to fall in love easily..!!!  Loneliness can bring, even two very different people together, but only for a small period of time, until they find another one..!!

2) environment- our environment tempts us & diverts our mind, like Wherever you go, you find couples hanging around you ,affects your thinking process e. g in -malls, cinema, park, library, restaurants, and even classes

3) Committed friends in your friend circle -  bcoz they make you jealous…by sharing their love moments/stories or showing themselves busy in late-night phones calls/texting

4) your less interaction  with your family-  it is generally seen that people getting less attention/love from their family…have more tendency to search for  love outside their home e.g- divorced parents, parents busy in making money.

 

5) hormones- many a times it’s just a testosterone/oestrogen flush that confuses you between your true love or  an attraction. Later,when you start spending time with them, you lose interest in them.
e.g-like maximum ppl fall in love or have crushes during pubertal age (10th-12th class)..later it decreases.

6) songs/movies/TV shows- believe me that all these things makes a strong impact on your subconscious mind.

 

7)attention deficiency- people getting less attention or care in their  friend circle/family starts searching for bf/gf to gain some attention & care.they start making up stories/doing non-sensical things in the name of love…so they will also have something to boast/talk about and those type of people, sometime starts making posts in social networking sites to gain some attention or trying to make themselves different from others & also sometime they do so to make their friends jealous of them..!

8) Free time-  “an idle mind is the devil’s workshop”  its totally true. Because when you are free, you start thinking about such things and when any work load comes, you don’t seem to care about it…!!

9)curiosity-  for a few people, it’s  their curiosity which kills them (makes them to take a wrong decision), they fall in love- to just to experience it… to see how it feels about what everyone is talking about. 

10) Guilt- this is most commonly seen in girls, people who are gullible or in the habit of making themselves guilty of  small things, accepts any proposals  easily, even without giving a second thought about it, just to make them free  of the guilt of rejecting them or in accepting, not to hurt the feeling of others, they donate & devote their personal life and later they regret that relationship.   

11)friends teasing you with someone e lse's name- it deeply affects your mind..somewhere ,sometime you start thinking about that person & start to develop feeling for him/her. 

11) Status symbol/impatience- it’s a wrong notion

that ,if you don’t have a gf/bf, then something is wrong with u or u will die a bachelor. People need to have patience to wait for the right person instead taking a wrong decision in hurry..!! What if you wont have a love-marriage?? Still in India arrange marriages occur that too in good no. and they are also more successful than love-marriages, in many terms..!!
For them girlfriends or boyfriends are just like a trophy/goal, because after obtaining them. they keep them in a corner as if they are a showpeice and start planning for their next goal (e.g-job/money/future)…and they don’t care to give a second look over them to take care of their needs..!!

-ankit suniyal(date13th april 2014 )
based on -  experiences of my friends & careful observation by me